Heart Talks
February 13th 2007 04:49
Hello Everybody,
In honor of Valentine’s Day I thought I would share with you about what Jack Canfield calls “The Heart Talk.” This is the perfect exercise to do with a spouse, business partners, or family. You can use The Heart Talk to clear the air so you can focus on what you truly want in your life and be successful. First you need a “heart” or something that you can pass around to the others involved in your heart talk. Something soft is preferable so that the person can squeeze it and be soothed as the person talks. There are agreements for a Heart Talk that must be adhered to for it to feel safe and to create a deep level of communication.
Guidelines:
A Heart Talk can be used with any size group from 2-10 people. First explain the guidelines to those involved. Have them sit in a circle and explain how a structured communication style can deepen the level of communication. Remember no interrupting or answering while the person with the heart speaks. Your goal is to listen and to understand. When it is your time to speak, do so from the heart, stating how you feel, but not trying to be right. It takes practice at just letting someone else talk and waiting your turn. Again, try not to think about your rebuttal, but rather stating how you feel. This is a very effective exercise and can drastically improve your relationships.
1) Only the person holding the heart talks.
2) You don’t judge or criticize what anyone else has said.
3) You pass the object to the left after your turn.
4) You talk about how you feel.
5) You can “pass” if you have nothing to say.
6) You keep the information confidential.
7) You don’t leave the talk until it is declared complete.
8) When the “heart” has gone around twice without anything being said the talk is over.
You can expect:
1) Enhanced listening skills
2) Constructive expression of feelings.
3) Improved conflict resolution skills.
4) Improved abilities to let go of resentments and old issues.
5) Development of mutual respect and understanding.
6) Greater sense of connection, unity, and bonding.
In Success and Gratitude,
George
In honor of Valentine’s Day I thought I would share with you about what Jack Canfield calls “The Heart Talk.” This is the perfect exercise to do with a spouse, business partners, or family. You can use The Heart Talk to clear the air so you can focus on what you truly want in your life and be successful. First you need a “heart” or something that you can pass around to the others involved in your heart talk. Something soft is preferable so that the person can squeeze it and be soothed as the person talks. There are agreements for a Heart Talk that must be adhered to for it to feel safe and to create a deep level of communication.
Guidelines:
A Heart Talk can be used with any size group from 2-10 people. First explain the guidelines to those involved. Have them sit in a circle and explain how a structured communication style can deepen the level of communication. Remember no interrupting or answering while the person with the heart speaks. Your goal is to listen and to understand. When it is your time to speak, do so from the heart, stating how you feel, but not trying to be right. It takes practice at just letting someone else talk and waiting your turn. Again, try not to think about your rebuttal, but rather stating how you feel. This is a very effective exercise and can drastically improve your relationships.
1) Only the person holding the heart talks.
2) You don’t judge or criticize what anyone else has said.
3) You pass the object to the left after your turn.
4) You talk about how you feel.
5) You can “pass” if you have nothing to say.
6) You keep the information confidential.
7) You don’t leave the talk until it is declared complete.
8) When the “heart” has gone around twice without anything being said the talk is over.
You can expect:
1) Enhanced listening skills
2) Constructive expression of feelings.
3) Improved conflict resolution skills.
4) Improved abilities to let go of resentments and old issues.
5) Development of mutual respect and understanding.
6) Greater sense of connection, unity, and bonding.
In Success and Gratitude,
George
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